first posting

I am writing this blog for several reasons. One to give myself a way to share feelings and thoughts when it comes to loving someone who has been incarcerated, or someone who has a drug/alcohol /sex addiction . I would also like to offer support to those out there who know the struggle of loving someone whose path has not been the straight easy path, but has been one of tears and fears. There are millions are people currently incarcerated. For most of those millions there are people who love them and who are prisoners themselves. Maybe they are not behind bars, but they have or are doing time with their loved one. There are millions who struggle with addictions. Perhaps every person on earth struggles with some type of addiction. Again there are others who are affected by the actions of the addict. So often others do not understand the love that exists between and addict and their family. Those who are in the midst of addiction would probably say they don't understand it themselves.
Sometimes you want to be able to say things, how they are and not pretend everything is flowers and cupcakes. So don't be surprised if things not pretty.
Even when a loved one finds sobriety or freedom, the scars from the past remain for all who were involved. Scars that may not be seen on the outside but are none the less real. So often mistrust, doubt and fear live in the crevices of ones heart afterwards. Its so damn difficult to let go of feelings. Sometimes you don't want to, because these are built in protectors that save us.